Since one of my sons was in the seventh grade, he’s wanted to join law enforcement — specifically, the FBI. Over the years, our family has had some humorous and not-so-humorous conversations about this path. During one conversation, he said he didn’t want to go to law school because, “what if I go for seven years and still don’t get into the FBI?” His brother reminded him he’d still be a lawyer. Tragic! (Read with sarcasm.)
The not-so-humorous discussions have centered on seeing humanity at its worst. My advice to him: Make sure to surround yourself with positive people.
The “Energy Bus”
I recently joined a book club to discuss books about leadership and personal growth. The most recent book I read was “The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy,” by Jon Gordon. This book is a motivational fable that revolves around a protagonist named George, who struggles both personally and professionally. George’s life turns for the worse when his car breaks down, leading him to meet a unique bus driver named Joy.
Joy introduces George to the “Energy Bus,” which represents the power of positive energy in shaping one’s life and achieving success. Throughout the book, George learns 10 valuable rules about the importance of attitude, perspective, and belief in oneself.
Inviting positive people
One of those rules belies the advice I gave my son. Rule #4: Invite people on your bus who share your vision for the road ahead. Inviting positive people on your bus is like finding great people in our personal and professional lives: The more positivity you surround yourself with, the more positive energy you generate. For example, have you ever worked with a great bunch of people? You like going to work because the people make it fun. Rule #4 reminds us to hire for attitude. Skill, in most cases, is trainable.
Avoiding the negativity
As much as it’s easy to say we’ll avoid negativity, it isn’t easy. Each day, we encounter negative people. This brings me to the book’s Rule #5: Don’t waste your energy on those who aren’t on your bus. Many years ago, as a resident at a VA hospital, I had a patient yell at me. I no longer recall why he was upset.
That same day, a human resources representative presented me with a certificate of appreciation. The reason? Another patient wanted to ensure I was recognized for my caring attitude. It took me a bit to forget the angry patient. I realized it was much easier to pay attention to the negative encounter than the positive one.
The power of positivity takes practice. Daily rituals that replenish our positive energy reserves are essential. Meditation, exercise, journaling, or other activities that give us joy are vital to keeping a positive attitude and resisting the negative energy we encounter during the day.
Taking a different path
Today, my son is acquiring skills to pursue an Army career. He probably won’t be able to tell me much of what he does. However, my advice still stands: Harness the power of positive energy. OM
